Love Yourself a Little: 6 Reasons You Should Take Yourself Out on a Date

Do you ever feel like you want to go out and have fun? But maybe thought that it would be weird to go out alone? Then waited for someone to take you out? Or tried hinting at someone that you want to be asked out somewhere? It’s almost like you are waiting for a grand gesture from someone, a psychic savior, except you don’t always get the invite you would like. Perhaps these reasons might help give you that push you need to stop waiting around and get behind the wheel of loving yourself like you deserve.

1.Taking the Lead.

Plain and simple. If you are taking yourself out on your own terms whenever you feel like it, then you are in charge. There is so much freedom that you can acquire and feel in doing so. Can you savor it? It is so empowering. At first, it might feel a bit odd or uncomfortable. Just know that when you step out of your comfort zone is when you grow. Soon enough it will not only feel good, but it will be a necessity. Taking the lead definitely results in the happiest and healthiest of outcomes.

2.Not Depending on Others to Feel Good or Loved.

You are capable of taking charge of your own happiness and there is no need to wait around for someone else to have the time to dedicate to you. When you depend on others to take care of you or do nice things for you, you are making yourself vulnerable and prone to heartache. You are at the mercy of others’ mood, time, resources, and desires; Why put yourself in a position where your happiness depends on someone else’s schedule? Why sabotage yourself in that way?

3.If You Don’t Love Yourself, Who Will?

It is such a common mistake for people to want to be in relationships with others to feel loved or to be happy. In actuality, there is no better relationship than the one you have with yourself. How is that relationship going by the way? When was the last time you took yourself out? Whenever you hold yourself to high standards and love yourself as a hobby, you are setting a precedent for others that come in to your life. You are letting others know that this is the love you deserve, this is the love you can accept, nothing less. Non-negotiable, period. If you do not set these standards, then you cannot expect others to adhere to them and love you the way you want to be loved or appreciated.

4.Loving Yourself Unconditionally.

Have you ever been in a relationship, any relationship, where you are loved or cared for when you are ‘behaving’ to others’ standards? You disagree to something or do something for you, yet you end up paying for it in other ways? Well, that has its own set of unhealthy issues! Anyways, in your relationship with yourself, you set the standards and make it work for you. Live your life and enjoy it, unconditionally. You have a bad day at work or something, then it is good day to treat yourself and help yourself feel better. You have a shitty experience, then help yourself get back up. You have a great day, then the more reason there is to celebrate. The point is you are loving yourself no matter what, no standards, no conditions or restrictions. Just love, through and through. Love without having to earn anything or prove your worthiness. You are a deserving being as is.

5.You do it For Others, Why Not for Yourself?

Have you ever heard anyone say “I have so much love to give” while waiting to have a significant other to give it all to? Why are people so inclined to give their all to a stranger, but not to themselves? Sounds weird to say it out loud, right? Yes, there is so much to give. Why not direct all that love towards yourself? You are your own significant other. Think about it, how would you feel if someone else loved you as much as you are capable of loving- whoa, that would feel amazing. I bet! Then, go for it, direct it all towards yourself. And it will be oh, so amazing!

6.You Are the Only Constant in Your Own Life.

People come and go, jobs come and go, relationships come and go, but you have yourself from the very beginning until the moment you take your last breath. The only one with you through it all is yourself. Wouldn’t you say that is someone worthy of it all too? Worthy of all you have to give, and more? Most definitely.

There you have it! Be in charge of your happiness, get out there and spend time with yourself on your own terms. Save yourself the heartache and sorrow that comes with depending on others to be happy. Find what works for you, whether that is a latte with a book in a quiet shop or an appetizer with a drink at a bar watching sports or simply takeout with a movie at home. Get creative, have fun, and enjoy!